"Choose You: Disconnecting to Make Space for Greatness"

I'll preface this for context: as we grow older and our behaviors and mindsets become more intuitive and spiritually connected, we start to understand that greatness is already in our path. With that understanding comes a decreasing tolerance for things—and people—that don’t align with this evolving perspective. That realization inspired me to write this blog.

Let’s be real: we’ve probably all been there, maybe even twice over. You know, dealing with people who don’t quite fit your niche, may not have your best interests at heart, or whose authenticity as friends or networks you’re not fully confident in.

Our intuition often nudges us, whispering the truth about these connections. But then there’s our heart and flesh—pulling us toward ignoring those subtle red flags. I'll admit, it used to bother me that I’d form relationships where my genuine desire for someone else’s happiness, success, and health wasn’t reciprocated. But as I’ve matured emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, my biggest challenge now isn’t identifying these relationships—it’s figuring out how to disconnect without being "mean."

When I was younger, my ability to easily disconnect was sometimes seen as a flaw. Now, at 39, with more clarity about where I want to be in life—personally and professionally—I wish I could reclaim that nonchalance. These days, I find myself more aware of the weight certain relationships carry, especially when they don’t align with my goals or energy.

The Reality of Asymmetrical RelationshipsAt 25, I heard the phrase, “They want to be invited, but they don’t want to come,” and it stuck with me. Back then, it referred to a “friend” who always wanted an invitation but rarely showed up. Now, over a decade later, that sentiment carries a much deeper meaning.

Some people want access to you—your energy, your goals, your ideas, your dreams—but they don’t want you to access your full potential. They enjoy what you offer: your advice, your listening ear, your light. But they don’t want you to surpass them.

They want to know your business but aren’t interested in helping you be about your business.
They want to be invited to your best future but have no real intention of seeing you get there—especially if it means leaving them behind.

Does this make them bad people? No. But it does mean you need to evaluate whether they’re worth the time, energy, and mental space they occupy.

The Hard Truth About Letting GoAs we align more fully with who God created us to be—even embracing our flaws—we develop a conviction about maintaining unnecessary or draining connections.

“There will always be people we want to take with us, but the reality is they don’t want to go—and they’re not invested in seeing you go, either.”

This isn’t easy to accept. Sometimes, it’s hard to let go of relationships we’ve nurtured for years. But holding on to people who are not invested in your growth can keep you from stepping into your own greatness.

Key Takeaways

1. Assess Your Relationships: Are they aligned with your goals? This doesn’t mean they have to be cheerleaders, but are they supportive of your growth?
2. Check for Symbiosis: Does the relationship feel mutually beneficial? Are you energized after interactions, or do you feel drained?
3. Look Beyond Words: Is the support real? When you need help, do they meet your needs or use their resources to connect you to a solution?
4. Be Honest: If the answer to these questions is no, it may be time to disconnect.
5. Choose You: Don’t be afraid to prioritize your well-being and your future.

Greatness is waiting for you, in all its forms—but you must actively choose it. Let go of the people and things that no longer serve your purpose and make space for the abundance that lies ahead.
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Choose YOU.


Stay well,
Frankie

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