Stay in Your Business

If you find yourself feeling lonely or needy, pause and ask: Whose business am I in?
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Am I caught up in the life of someone I wish would fill the void? Am I mentally wrapped up in the actions of people I feel have caused this longing? Am I focused on those I believe should be showing up for me, but aren’t?

When we stay in our own business, we show up for ourselves. But the moment we begin living in someone else’s world, replaying what they did or didn’t do, how they’ve behaved, or what they haven’t said, we begin to abandon our own. Their life, their choices, and their behavior are their business. Ours is how we respond and care for ourselves in the meantime.

Because if we’re busy trying to mentally manage their world, who is running ours?
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When we get caught up in the emotion and intensity of what’s lacking in our life because of someone else’s behavior, we may unknowingly leave our own world unattended. We disconnect from what is here... our sense of peace, our purpose, or even our relationships.

This can show up subtly, especially in parenting. When we become consumed by our child’s behaviors (teens or adults) we risk becoming so entrenched in their world that we neglect our own. We may lose connection with a partner, miss moments with our other children, or begin showing up halfway in our friendships and work. Our energy becomes stretched thin because we are no longer grounded in our own life.

So when loneliness or overwhelm creeps in, check in with yourself:

Am I inserting myself into someone else’s journey and abandoning my own?
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Coming back to yourself isn’t selfish but sacred work that allows you to tend to your life with more clarity, calm, and care.

xo

Frankie Alisha
Keep up the Momentum